Sorry for the long post: So my in laws and I are not close. My husband and I have been together almost 13 years and I have met them twice (both in the last year). When we were out visiting them in October we gave them the news about the baby and stated that this summer was probably not a good time for the whole family to visit (last time his mom brought his sister, her husband and their uncontrolled 8 year old. They took over our house with no respect). They called this weekend saying they were all coming in July (1 month after baby is due) and that his mom is probably coming out for the birth. I am so uncomfortable with this. I do not know her so I do not want her here. These people have never made an attempt to know me. Not 1 of them, even his mom came to our wedding. Do I have the right to say I want her to wait at least a week after birth before coming out?