Bedroom Trouble?

Audrey

My guy and I have been together for 5 years. I'm 19, he's about to be 23. We have a had a pretty good sex life for most of our relationship, and we are pretty perfect for each other. We're comfortable. We typically screw like rabbits whenever we can. Once a day, at least, when we're around each other.

But lately, for the past month or two, he hasn't really wanted to very often. Like, a max of 6 times in the month of January. And while I can take no for an answer and won't force him to do anything, I feel left out. Idk. He doesn't even really masterbate a lot lately (he usually has a healthy relationship with himself in that regard). (We're also pretty open about these things with each other.)

I know it may just be an overreaction. But tonight I wanted to, and when he said he wasn't up to it, I felt really sad. I told him it was okay because I don't want him to feel bad, but I just got really disappointed.

I masterbate every now and then when I am not around him, but even though I can reach climax when alone, it isn't as fulfilling as sex with him. So I don't know what to do. Could there be something wrong with his ability to become aroused? Or could it be that an external issue in his life is causing this?

I appreciate any help that you may be able to bring. He doesn't know why he's been like this and neither do I.

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As

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.....maybe he’s just into minors 🤷🏽‍♀️

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As • Feb 7, 2019
You say it wasn’t like that, but as soon as you’re of age he’s uninterested.... hmmm 🧐

Au

Audrey • Feb 7, 2019
He's not. I'm the only person he's dated who was younger than him. And it wasn't like that. We clicked on a mental level long before a physical one.

De

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Talk to him about it. Maybe he wants more excitement or if he isn’t even masturbating much, maybe his sex drive dropped. It might be a normal drop or he might need to see his doctor. If it’s just excitement spice it up, different positions, places, toys, role play, anything that he or you want to try.

Au

Audrey • Feb 7, 2019
Thank you. I will bring it up. I just don't want it to upset him because he genuinely felt bad for not being in the mood last night.

Ki

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I’m 20 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. After a while you might want to try new things in your sex life even if they sound weird or funny to keep the excitement going. if that’s not the case, believe it or not sometimes men just need to breath from the constant 24/7 sex and that’s perfect normal. But if his regular daily actions with you are also changing.. you might want to look into that. You can love a man just never be a fool for a man.

Au

Audrey • Feb 7, 2019
Thank you for the insight.