First time pregnancy....how do you calm nervousness?

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After a year and a half of trying, my husband and I finally found out we’re expecting. Im 7 weeks 5 days, and I’m terrified of miscarriage. Just as I calmed myself, I had a couple spotting episodes and it’s awakened my fear. Any advice?

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I’m also with my first pregnancy & I went through so much stress that at a point I spotted too so that added even more stress, I went to the ER & they saw on an ultrasound that I had blood between my uterus & placenta so maybe that’s where the bleeding was coming from. It stopped right after. On my first actual appointment with my OBGYN she was looking for the heart & for a minute a got scared she wasn’t gonna find it, this was at 8-9 weeks. I had my first ultrasound at 13 weeks & I got to see my baby & again I was scared to not find the heartbeat. I think what got me really scared was the bleeding at the beginning & just getting put on bed rest it sucked. I’m currently 15 weeks so I know that the miscarriage probably has dropped by a lot but I still get scared. I just try to trust God, & pray that my baby develops healthy. I believe that we begin to be mom’s since we’re carrying the baby, we just happen to worry about our babies in a different way. You’ll have a healthy baby, in God we will trust❤️

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I was the same way. Here are a few things that helped me:
1) knowing that worrying cannot cause miscarriage (or there would be no need for bc or abortion)
2) the app someone mentioned about calculating miscarriage rates (since they drop pretty fast)
3) as pregnancy progresses you get used to the hormones and anxiety drops. Right now ur body is going through huge fluctuations in hormones which increase anxiety.
4) Rescue Remedy-available on Amazon or at health food stores, homeopathic and helps with anxiety!
Good luck to you and congrats on your pregnancy! Worrying is normal. All will be well. 😊

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I was terrified of miscarriage too (I have PCOS so the risk of miscarriage was much higher) and what helped me most was memorizing a verse that really comforted me and whenever I got nervous just repeating it over and over until the fear passed. For me it was Philippians 4:6-7. Hubby and I did a really close reading study of it together before our first ultrasound and after that it always helped quiet the voices of doubt and concern. I’m 33.5 weeks now and still use it all the time!

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I used this when I was pregnant to calm my nerves. The link won't work since it's on here, but if you Google "miscarriage odds", this page should pop up. At 7 weeks and 5 days, you have only a 6% chance of miscarrying.
https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php

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I dont say any of this in a disheartening way but just knowing that whatever happens is Gods will. You posted in this Christian group so I'm assuming you are a christian....so praying always helped me and telling people about my pregnancy even early on so they could pray also. And not just praying the baby would stick, but simply praying for Gods will and knowing that whatever happens, it was what was I  Gods will for me and it was ordained by Him. That always brought me peace knowing that our sovereign God is in control and knows what is best and He knows what Hes doing. Theres always a purpose even if we cant see it. But i do hope the best for you 💕

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Whenever I got stressed or nervous I’d go lay down in bed in a dark room and listen to ASMR. It’s not for everyone but there’s a lot of different kinds, so if you’ve never heard of it or have heard of it being weird, give it another shot. I promise it’s not all weird people eating really close to a mic. There’s a lot more out there. 
If ASMR really isn’t for you, there’s always just listening to calming music. Anything to fill the spaces of your head that are bouncing between worries. ❤️

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