I’m just feeling extremely anxious and frustrated as my role as stepmom. I have been doing it for almost 6 years and the last 6 months to a year have been the harder times. I had a reasonable expectation as to what I should expect as a stepmom when I got married but it has not gone anything like that. 99% of the time the boys moms (yes each son has a different mom, hubby married 2x before me) has a crisis, or is completely MIA. The younger sons mom even moved out of the state for a year and a half. There is no coparenting because they aren’t even around. One mom lives an hour away and the other over 3 hours. So hubby and I do it all. When they are around they make horrible decisions all the time and one even got arrested for stealing money during Xmas break (thankfully he was with grandpa at the time she was arrested). I’ve talked to my husband but there’s no changing their moms. The older boy is 16 and younger is 10 years old. Hubby and I have a 2 year old together and I’m having a hard time finding joy in my stepmom role anymore because the younger one acts up a lot and he’s acting like he hates me but says he loves me. Like it’s so inconsistent. Every time he does visit with his mom he acts even worse towards me. It’s so frustrating because I do everything I can to treat him with love and be involved. I show up to all his stuff and I’m the one helping out with everything. I’ve even taught him almost everything he knows from swimming to spelling, reading, writing, cursive, math, and other stuff for school. His dad doesn’t mind that I do this stuff because he trusts I do a good job. But I am struggling and I just thought things would be a little different. Didn’t realize I would be doing all the work for everyone to hate on me. It’s so draining.