My husband wants a gun

I don't like guns. I had a bad experience where my abusive father put a loaded gun in my mouth and then beat me with it.

I tried to get over it and am ok now with guns on TV or video games but not in real life. A gun range let me come in after hours to fire a gun...I ended up collapsing mid fire and crying on the floor...

My husband supports me but he brings it up more and more. He wants the gun for protecting our family. I can tell it's bothering him more and more.

We live in an ok neighborhood but there's a lot of theft and I think he's concerned someone will break into our home. We do have a security system but it definitely has some flaws.

We also have a toddler so the thought of even a secure gun scares me.

I guess I just need advice on what to do to come to a compromise. I can tell he wants to support me but is struggling with his own anxiety of need to protect our family.

UPDATE:

Thank you everyone for your feedback. A few things I forgot to mention. The security system is good it's just downstairs so I couldn't press the police_ fire buttons at night easily. It has to stay downstairs to arm it on the way out the door. The sensor on our back door drains the battery every 5 days or less because we use it so much to take the dog out so we just stopped changing the batteries because it was becoming too expensive. We know the back door is statistically the door of choice for break ins. We're contacting the company to see if maybe our sensor is defective. Those were really the main problems with it.

I have a big dog that sounds scary but shes a big scaredy cat lol and would hide behind me if there was an intruder.

I sleep with a bat by my bed and we have a sword (lol) and knives downstairs.

My husband is almost always home with me at night by 8pm at the latest, but sometimes leaves at 4am.

We live in an affluent neighborhood. We lucked out and got our house at the best possible time. So, while we're not wealthy, most of our neighbors are upper middle class up to wealthy. There's hardly any violent crime in our entire city, just a lot of theft.

My husband isn't being mean about anything. He just worries about our safety because the cities right next to is do have a large increasing crime rate and the theft in our city is skyrocketing.

I have been to therapy and it has helped me a lot, but these things take time. This incident was not the worst I had been through, just the worst related to guns.

I like the idea about getting a stun gun and my husband agreed to look into getting one. We had a chat and although he still wants one he agreed for now to focus on some of our more immediate problems, to work on fixing the sensor, and liked the idea about me taking a self defense class. I told him I'd even be ok with a realistic looking fake gun to bluff with if I needed to.

I feel that maybe we can have one in the far future, but right now I know I wouldn't be able to use it safely and I think explaining that fact alone to him made him see that I'd end up hurting myself or others more than helping.

Thank you ladies for all of your great ideas and support ❤