SO makes me feel at fault?

Question

Almost every time an issue arises, my significant other is rather clever in making me believe that it was my fault and, in order to settle the situation, I feel the need to apologize first. Is this a clear red flag? Is there a way to call him out on his ways without him trying to flip the blame on me again?

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This is definitely a red flag. He is being manipulative. I've been there and it only got worse for me. It's an immature behaviour and it will slowly eat away at your self esteem and self worth. If I were you I would get out now.

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Big red flag! My sister ended up in a abusive marriage because of this. He used to make everything out to be her fault, no matter what it was. That's how it started, and in the end it turned into physical abuse. This is not what happens every case, but what he is doing to you is emotional abuse. Please, leave while you can. Don't ever take that chance, hoping it could change. Don't give him the benefit of a doubt, it typically doesn't get better. I'm sorry, its just not worth the risk. Good luck!

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Run!  Barely opening my eyes (AGAIN) to the fact that I'm with a manipulator

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I know how you feel. My SO like literally cannot admit fault or wrongdoing. During fights he side steps my points to bust out a list of things I'm doing wrong :( I do believe it's a red flag and considered leaving in the past. But we have been in counseling for over a year and things have really improved. He does still blame me for everything in the heat of the moment, but will most of the time admit it the following day. You don't deserve to live with that kind of guilt and abuse, but only you can decide if your relationship is worth working on and if he's willing to change his ways. Good luck!

SO makes me feel at fault?

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