So a little background. My bf and I met in graduate school in Canada and were best friends. Nothing more ever came of anything and We kind of went our separate ways after school. He got his PhD and then went back to Taiwan to complete his mandatory military service. I got married, had a baby, and got divorced. We met back up about a year and a half ago and immediately were in love....he bought me a ring on Black Friday (even though I'm not allowed to have it yet because he wanted that to be a surprise) and we have been trying for a baby (he's soon to be 37 and I'm soon to be 34).

We finally made plans to go to Taiwan for 2 weeks in July to meet his parents etc.  He let me know that he would not be comfortable proposing before I met his parents and all was good and I lectured him about not waiting until we were IN Taiwan to let his parent's know his intentions.  Apparently for once I made good points so Sunday night he finally talked to his parents and told them we were going to come visit and that he has bought me a ring etc.

Well...apparently I am not welcome and they now have decided to make him aware that they absolutely do not approve of me....for every reason i feared.  I'm divorced with a kid, white/american.  The fact that I'm divorced clearly means that we do not have the same values and commonalities, and the fact that I have a kid probably means I'm just desperate for someone to take care of me.  And me being American....if he marries me and we settle here, I'll be taking him away from his family.  Forget the fact that they sent him to Canada to school when he was a freshman in high school and his mom and aunt took turns watching them for 6 months at a time.  

He is PISSED.  He can't understand, they raised him to be better, why are they not being better.  They video chatted with him Friday while he was at my house and told him they loved the pics we put up and said they've never seen him look so happy.  They've been telling him for a year to not waste time and settle down and now they are telling him to not rush into anything because he may not really know me.   

They've known all along that I'm divorced and have a kid and...they haven't cared up until this point.  I can't figure out if they just hoped he would lose interest or if other family said something to him (they had been travelling visiting extended family all week for Chinese new year)....I don't know.  

I can't ask him to give up his family...we are kind of stuck in limbo right now.  He's hoping he can talk to them more and get them to accept that he's happy and he loves me.  but I don't know what to do if they don't. My son and I love this man more than I ever knew was possible. He's is so sweet, and loyal....i can't bear the thought of losing him. I don't know what to do.