So long story short my parents had three girls and no sons. Well both my sisters have children, older sister has 3 kids (complains constantly about them) and my younger sister has one (occasionally complains but I think that’s more to do with her child father being an idiot).

My dad and mom have always made comments when we go home to visit, my husbands military so we move a lot, well they always say “oh we don’t need any more grandkids we’ve got enough”. They only say that when my husband I are around and it hurts me a little. Well after going in six years of getting treatment and a few surgeries I finally told my mother that we’re trying. She was upset that I would do this because we don’t live near them and we move every couple of years. They both love my husband more than me it seems some days and she knows it’s my dream to be a parent.

My sisters well we get along decently. Every time they call to complain about their children I give them the best advice I can. I’d like to think I know a good amount about children since I’ve taken care of kids since I was 14. The moment I give the advice and they don’t like it I get a lecture from them how I don’t have kids so I don’t understand how they feel. I try to keep my mouth shut because if I don’t they threaten to not let the kids call or video chat with us.

My in-laws are completely opposite, they are constantly involved with the whole process and it’s been amazing. This is the only time my mother in-law and I really see eye to eye.

Maybe I’m being overly sensitive but it hurts to know my own parents don’t want us to have kids. Some days I don’t even know how to talk to my own parents and I always think about how I’m lying to them. My mom and I are too similar and fight constantly when we’re in the same house but now that I’ve been married an not living with them it seems to be a lot better. My father and I are very close, he’s always tried to protect me from fights with her.

I don’t know how to even handle this anymore. I want to open with them but even telling my mom yesterday gives me anxiety anytime my phone rings. I’m waiting for the phone call from my father telling me how I should wait or we shouldn’t have kids at all. The last thing I need is stress but I’m sick of hiding my life from them.

Has anyone else dealt with this or been in a similar position? How did you handle it?

Sorry for the long post but I have no one to talk to about it and my poor husbands not very helpful.