How should I tell my mom?..

Question

I'm not a virgin. I'm 14 turning 15 in about two months. I know I'll end up having sex again I just want to be safe but I scared how to tell my mom that I want to get on the pill. Would 15 be a good age to ask my mom about putting me on the pill and how should I bring this conversation up?!?

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First of all, use condoms. ALWAYS. They make latex and non latex and sometimes they are not the most comfortable but a little discomfort is better than a sexually transmitted infection, or unwanted pregnancy. Second if you've had unprotected sex (or sex at all) you need to talk to your mom about that first. Go get STI testing and a pelvic exam/pap smear. If you are mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to do it as safe as possible for you and your partner by getting pap smears as often as your doctors office recommends. Thirdly assuming your mom has been involved and aware in these other decisions by driving you to the doctor ask the doctor about your best birth control options because it is not limited to the pill. Fourth if you get in a monogamous relationship and know for a fact you and your partner are free of STIs only then can you consider not using condoms. Just be open, honest and mature with your mom to show her you think you're capable to deal with the pros and cons of sex.
*If you get on birth control be sure to know all the information about it.*

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Honestly I don't think you should be sexually active at all. There is way to much social pressure for sex and getting into sex. But I promise you; if you want to know the safest way, it's to wait until your a little older. You will thank me in the end. 
In the instance you don't listen to me and that is okay, non latex condoms are a must. You said you're allergic to condoms, so get in on non latex and wear them every single time. No exceptions. It doesn't matter what the boy says, wear them. 
As for your mom, tell her flat out what's going on. And if you tell her that it's going to happen again and I don't want you to ignore this, she will help you get some form of birth control.

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I just.. I don't know how you can have the emotional maturity to handle a sexually active relationship at such a young age.

If your going to do it.. Be safe

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Tell her you're having bad AF they'll put you on the pill to "help control it" that's what I told my mom when I wasn't ready to tell her I wasn't a virgin. I was 17.  Good luck hun

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I would ask for the depo shot. You get it every three months and it's better than the pill you can forget to take that. And I'm 15 and I just told my mom I had sex about 9months ago. She made me a apt. Fast for birthcontrol and to get checked for stds. It might be hard to tell her at first and she might be mad. But she'll understand after awhile. And after I told my mom out relationship grew and we don't argue like we used to. Just make sure when you have sex it's for the right reasons.. Because I didn't do them for the right reasons and I kept repeating my mistakes and it gives you a bad name at school and makes you feel terrible about yourself.  But just sit her down and tell her! It'll be okay

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I'm 18 and I lost my virginity at 15 and I just got on Depo and it's wonderful. I always used condoms except once. Just once and I got an STD and I didn't even tell my mom. To this day I regret lying to her even though I handled it myself and my current boyfriend at the time understood and helped me get through it. It's important to have support in your life. You should just tell her and be honest you don't want to be pregnant at 15 it's scary so many of my friends aren't going through that and it's not a joke. Good luck!

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I don't live with my mom, I live with my Grandmother and I lost my virginity at 15, I asked to go on the pill at 14 for bad periods, I was really irresponsible about taking them everyday at the same time each day. I wound up having a really bad pregnancy scare. No 15 year old should have to walk to a drugstore during lunch at school to take a pregnancy test. I highly recommend talking to her about a longer term birth control, maybe Depo, or something along those lines, that way you don't have to worry about missing pills.

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