Hey, me and my partner have been together 3years. We have a daughter together, she was born almost 3 months ago :)

Since she has came we have been arguing a bit, and it's all been about cannabis, he smokes it at night which I don't mind while wee woman is in bed but it started escalating I'll not get into that lol

But when we where going through a very hard time I put in for a place of my own as it's his flat I moved in with him. He tried to put my name on his rent book but I needed to have proof I was living there for 1 year, I was but just don't have the proof. When we argue I always feel like I have to leave etc or he would make remarks like I think you should stay in your mum's tonight. I just had enough and applied for a house of my own.

We have now since been getting on fantastic both loved up again. The thing is with our relationship when it's good it's brilliant but when it's bad it's awful. Any who the time is coming and I'm starting to get offers through for a house. He knew when we started getting on good again that when offers come I will be taking it and I've told him he can come live with me and his daughter and after 6 months I will put his name on my rent book but he is adamant that he doesn't want to leave this apartment that he is in. What he wants is either for us all to live here or me and our daughter to move into the new house but he still gets to hold into his apartment

I don't want him to hold onto his apartment why should he? So if he gets fed up he can just come back here on a drinking bender etc I have made it clear if we make a go off it when we are a family unit in a house no spare houses to go back to.

Although he has made it clear that he will not give this place up. But I can't help but feel really bad that my little girl won't be growing up in this apartment like me and her daddy had planned. We have had so many memories in here and it's really gonna be heart breaking for me to leave. I know I have to do it though as it's never gonna be my place as well.

If me and him ever broke up then I would be out on my ear having to find somewhere to live. With a baby I cannot do that. Main reason to he doesn't want to give this place up is because invade I kick him out but I've already told him after 6 months I would put his name on the rent book but no.

He says he wants to see his little girl grow up and us to be a family but he just isn't willing to give his apartment up.

Do you think I am doing the right thing getting a place of my own?

Do you think once I get a place and start moving he will change his mind?

I'm gutted I have to do this but it will be for the best