At the end of my rope here. My mom and my MIL wanted to throw us our baby shower, which was very nice of them. Originally, I was kind of worried about my mom, who can be a little bit of a drama sometimes, but she’s actually been wonderful about planning the whole thing.

On the other hand, my MIL has been creating so much friction. She offered to host the party, but has been actively obstructing planning (saying we dont need to serve food because the party is at 2pm rather than a meal time, offering to provide mimosa supplies and then claiming it wasnt her idea, vetoing the idea of serving beer at the party instead, sending out conflicting information to the people involved in planning, planning to throw out the couches in her living room and have no seating at the party, etc) but she also had been insisting telling me about every single detail of what she was doing down to telling me each guest that RSVPd, despite my making clear that I did not wish to be part of planning as I’m in the middle of studying for and taking medical board exams at 30 weeks pregnant.

My SIL finally stepped in and offered to help plan and manage my MIL, which had been a huge weight off my shoulders, but I found out last night that my MIL is being extremely rude to my mother and SIL in communication about the party. She responds to everything my mom says with sarcastic or passive aggressive comments, and my poor mother hasn’t said anything to me because she doesn’t want to stress me out. I am honestly ready to ask my MIL to stop being a part of planning and let my SIL host the party at her place, but my husband thinks this will make the overall situation worse. What would you guys do? I’m so upset!