I need some sharing...

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So i am pregnant with baby 4 after 5 cycles ttc. I should be 8+1 today however i did ovulate very latr (almost 10days from the original glow prediction). On sunday (after very strenuous chores all day saturday) i started bleeding early about 1am. Bleeding increased all day sunday and monday. I couldnt wait until my OB appointment wednesday so i went to the er in hopes of answers. If it was a loss i needed to know, if not well then whats going on and what do i do. I was there 5 hours. Labs to test beta HCG, ultra sounds to see growth and check my ovaries (baby 3 caused a cyst that had to be operated on at 15weeks pregnant). All the ER doc said was theres no definite loss or definite baby. He wouldnt even look at me. He gave me no idea what to expect as far as if it was a loss or what to do. Ive emailed my OB but no response yet.

My bleeding decreases when im not active so ive been trying to be bed bound unless necessary (but with a wild 1yo im just doing my best). What do i do? Whats an average loss look like? The cramping is insane... like worse than pp/breastfeeding cramps