Hello all, I'm going to do my best to try to present this problem as neutral as possible because I've never felt so lost in a disagreement with my husband. 

The people: Myself, My husband, & my 18 month old son

****Information you might need to know about us****

Me: I am a specialist in the field of special needs.

My husband: Goes to school full time and works part time. 

My son: My son has developmental delay, speech issues, & other issues and qualifies for state early intervention. 

Right now we participate in early intervention, a program called parents as teachers (they mostly work with us on how to be better parents for his needs), and feeding therapy (he actually mostly graduated from feeding therapy and it is on hold right now just to see how he does before he is fully discharged). 

My husband and I see each other M & W mornings & evenings for a couple hours and T,TH evenings for a few more hours. We spend Sat & Sundays together. On Friday's my son usually has therapy in the afternoons for 2 or 3 hours. My husband comes home from work and joins in half way through and then we all spend the evening together. One of the Friday therapies is early intervention.

****The problem*****: My husband wants to stop early intervention.

My argument in short: Yes, they're not the best, but they have helped us. They are the reason he can walk and helped us greatly with that. It is frustrating that they often forget the specifics of his needs and we have to repeat ourselves a lot or they try to tell us his needs aren't as high as they are and I have to advocate for our son before they realize we were right. Each time we see them they do offer at least one or two good pieces of advice that we put into practice right away. Having early intervention now just on paper will make it much easier when he's 3 to get an IEP or other state therapy services and I won't have to go through all the advocating I've already done to get his needs met again. My husband hasn't been a part of a lot of what I've had to do to get all of his therapies and has no idea how hard it can be to get an IEP at 3. I've helped many families through that process as part of my job. Do I know for certain he'll need one at 3? No but it's looking that way and I've struggled this far why make it harder on us?

His argument in short: Early intervention is worthless. They don't help him and even forget simple facts about him. Our time is sparse right now as a family and meeting them every week is taking away from family time. 

My response: Yes, they sucked at feeding so I took my son to a feeding therapist and he did great. But they've helped us in the other areas. I feel they're failing us on speech as well but I'm about to take him to a separate speech therapist. They do help a little with speech just not as much as he needs. He's behind in all of the other areas and that can be their focus now. 

His response: It takes time away from our family time and is a waste of our time. We need to stop it. 

My response: It's 1 hour a week out of our lives. You do not have to attend. I took him alone to feeding therapy & I will be taking him alone to speech therapy (due to his schedule). I can do early intervention alone if I have to. He needs all the help he can get. 

The disagreement went on from there. He said time I spend in therapy takes away from time I could be at work. I said which is it money or family time you're upset about? We went in circles for a bit. I told him I don't understand how you can be so upset if I gave you an out to where you don't even have to attend. I will do it all and won't give you grief about not being there. He said it still takes time away from our family time and make him look like a bad father if he didn't attend. We went in circles more then both basically dug into our sides. 

I don't really know where to go from here. My husband and I don't disagree like this often and I don't see a way out of this. I'm not stopping my son's therapy. I'm not waiting for another year for my husband to look back and realize he's wrong and my son could have used more support. I'm giving up my free time and taking on stress at work to make time for these therapies - Happily because it's what my son needs. I'm getting a little emotional now so I'll stop it here. 

Does anyone have any advice on how to solve this with my husband? Am I completely missing something from his point of view?