Can I get some advice from fellow Christian ladies out there on how to deal with this? I've been living in my in laws house my whole almost 2 year marriage and it's the biggest mistake I've ever done.. I get judged 24/7, 100% disrespected every day from my mother in law. She doesn't work, doesn't do dishes and doesn't do anything besides complain. I work A LOT. I rarely nap bc if I try she says "I wish I could do that" though thats what she does 80% of her life. I can't cook for my husband, do his laundry, etc. Without her breathing down my neck and she constantly has drama or something hateful or negative to say. She calls me a vampire bc I was very sick all last month and still having to work 40+ hours a week and wanted to sleep after work 😒 my father in law isn't that bad but he definitely doesn't show respect for our marriage or the way we even want to live our lives. I pray and pray but my husband still is stuck in this world of living with mommy and daddy and he knows it's unhealthy for our marriage and our mental health for sure. How do I talk to him? I've tried everything but he is "mortified" about disappointing them. All they use us for is to pay bills, clean up THEIR messes and to not progress in our lives. I've gone as far as to tell my husband I'm leaving and living in my car or with a friend bc he seems to be married to his mom and dad rather than me. What do I say to him? I don't understand why he feels so stuck in a place like this that I would leave in a heartbeat, he doesn't have an explanation.. His parents sheltered him way too much and it definitely shows.

Ps. He does complain and hates living here especially since both of his brothers moved out one of which is younger and isn't married but yet he still sucks up to them and though we pay half the bills, clean every mess they make which is a lot bc they're slobs, he still isn't in a rush to leave after 2 years of this.... I feel like getting married was a mistake sometimes as much as I hate saying or even thinking that.