I came home pregnant at the age of 17 with a person my mom was not fond of, she did not want to speak to me, told me I could not see my child’s father. She eventually came around and he is now 3 and the love of her life. She was very upset and disappointed, but eventually love took over. I am now pregnant again with my daughter at 21, and she just accepted it there is nothing she can do. Advice from a daughter who told her she was pregnant at a young age be there for her. Accept her decision as to what she wants to do with the baby. That is all she is looking for. Don’t bash her and tell her all the wrong things she has done or will do for having a baby so young. She will appreciate the support from the beginning in the long run.

My parents told me my whole life that if I came home pregnant really young, they would be disappointed, but that they loved me and that is the end. I plan on handling it exactly the same. Even if I did not like or trust the dad, I wouldn’t want my daughter to feel like she had to isolate herself from myself or my husband. In fact, I think that would do far more harm than good. I would help her find the resources that would help most, find a good doctor, and make sure she knew that my support was there for her and my grandchild. I also think that some 18 year olds are much more equipped for motherhood than others, and that being a young mom doesn’t doom you to be a bad mom.

I’d tell her that though im very disappointed in her CHOICES, I’m not disappointed in her . I love her and we’re gonna figure out what to do together . I mean 18 is younger than what I’d want but she’s still old enough to get an apartment if she wanted it , able to work , almost done or done with high school, etc

i would still support her in any way that i possibly can and be someone that she may lean on especially since her baby daddy may not be ready for such a commitment. it’s important to remember that she’s your daughter and he’s not your son so you can’t attack her over the guy but you may express your disappointment of having getting pregnant at that age but treat it like you got pregnant by any man not just the one you dislike (if that makes sense). see what she wants to do about the situation and support her in whatever she decides. make sure to educate her about the importance of prenatal care and assist her in the do’s and donts. if she doesn’t have a job really enforce the importance of having one so that she is able to support herself and the baby.