My Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With Me

Well, my first fear of late has been confirmed. My husband no longer wants to have sex with me. I am 23 weeks pregnant and sporting a nice round bump. My breasts have grown considerably (though they were already large) and my nipples have grown as well. This body that is growing our first child, our sweet little daughter no longer attracts my husband, and I’m devastated.

As I imagine many women have, I’ve been struggling with my body image. There are days I love my body, and others I look at myself with disgust. I know I’m pregnant, but I can’t help but feel fat on occasion. My insecurities eat at me on those days and I worry if my husband is still attracted to me.

I’ve had my suspicions for awhile now. He went from still wanting me and asking for sex, of course when I felt my worse with morning sickness etc., to suddenly I don’t get requests anymore. Lately, it’s been me instigating intimacy. He’ll usually get hard and we’ll start at it, but once I’m off he gets soft, says he’s tired, he already masturbated, or he just isn’t going to cum. And that’s it. He hasn’t been cumming lately.

Sorry tmi here, but if you’re on this app you know what the deal is.

Today I was feeling particularly needy and wanting confirmation. I asked for sex the other night and was declined. I was determined to have sex and have him cum tonight. But...once again he couldn’t finish.

Honestly, I just broke down in tears. I can’t help it. I know it isn’t really his fault, he can’t help that he isn’t feeling it, but I just feel so shitty. I asked him to be honest and admit he wasn’t attracted to me while I was pregnant. He claims it isn’t that, but I just really don’t believe him. I think he just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. But in my mind it’s too late. You can’t refute the evidence. He did say he was worried he’d hurt the baby...and perhaps that’s part of it, but I know my husband and I know it’s more than that.

I honestly just don’t know what to do. I feel awful. I know he now feels awful. I’m just so worried how this is going to effect our relationship. I also don’t know how I’m supposed to get myself through this. During this time I was already struggling with my body changes on my own to know my husband is apparently struggling with them as well really blows.

Honestly, I just needed to vent. I suppose I’m also in a slightly twisted way (sorry) hoping someone else is going through this. It wouldn’t feel so bad if I’m not the only one struggling I think.