Long story short, my in-laws are mad at my dad because he didn’t come to our wedding because my mom and him don’t talk at all.

We got married almost 2 years ago. My husband and I aren’t mad about it anymore. We forgave him a long time ago and talked about it with him. But they still refuse to even be in the same room as him.

On our son’s 1st birthday, I asked if they mind if my dad comes to his birthday party because I’d really like him there especially because my mom couldn’t come, she’s in palliative care and dying of cancer, and my sister is in a psychiatric ward for bipolar so she couldn’t come either. I told her if they aren’t comfortable to not worry, he wouldn’t come.

They started so much drama about it. They were furious that I even asked and they both won’t talk to me. At first they cancelled, then they said they would come if I apologized to my mother in law because I told her if she didn’t come when she said they might not that I would never talk to them again if they didn’t.

In the end they texted to say they’ll be there and came a half an hour late. I said Id rather make amends first with them so it’s not awkward and they said well we’re almost there, so we said okay. They said they were only going for Roderick and they don’t want to discuss the issue. His dad didn’t say anything when I said hi to him.

Now they’re completely ignoring us. My mother in law and sister in law are the ones who took the videos of the cake and my husband texted his mom to ask him for her video of it and she won’t answer him.

I’m so sick and tired of their petty drama. I wish they would grow up and just tolerate my dad for a few hours. Next year I’m not putting my dad on the back burner so they can keep nursing a grudge. It’s not fair for anyone. My dad said he’d try to make amends with them after my moms funeral because everything is so stressful right now.

I should mention they’re alcoholics and they’ve distanced themselves from everyone the past few years, but especially us. I think it’s because we’re Christians and they always tell us how much they can’t stand church. They talk down about Christians in front of us. I think they don’t like that we’re still following it and they aren’t anymore. They raised my husband in church until he was maybe 6.

I’m really hurt about it and I just needed to get it off my chest. If you have any advice or support, I’d really appreciate it. TIA ❤️