Am I overreacting?

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So firstly, I love my husband. He's great. But honestly, he can be so oblivious at times. So this morning my BBT dropped and AF showed up shortly after. I was crushed. I was so sure this was our month. Hubby had already left for work, so I just sent him a message telling him what happened. He phoned me and I was crying. I told him I'll be fine tomorrow, but today I'm feeling like shit. So after the call, I spent a few more minutes crying, just letting it all out. I fixed myself up, went to work and tried to put up a happy face. So I get home, cook food and just sink into the couch. I still feel like utter crap. Hubby phones saying he'll be a bit late. I'm fine with it, sometimes he works a bit late. So he gets home and tells me about his day. He realizes he forgot his phone at work so he says he's quickly leaving to pick it up, but he'll need to fetch the workshop keys from his boss and drop it again. I ask him if he can't just leave it there till tomorrow because I just want to spend time with him cuz I'm still feeling really down. Everything is locked, so it'll be fine. He says he would really rather go fetch it. So I say, okay, but please hurry back home. He's gone a while so I text him. He says he got stuck talking with his boss. I ask him to please come home. At this point AF cramps are killing me and it's just making me more depressed. She really wants me to know she's here. So another hour goes by and I text him again. He says he's busy. So now I'm kind of ticked off at him. He knows how I'm feeling and I just want him to be there for me. So now I'm crying all over again (mixed between being sad and being in pain). He gets home 2h later at like 10.30pm. I'm notably pissed off but I don't want to start a fight. He asks me what's wrong, I explain how I'm feeling and I just wanted him to be with me and he could have spoken to his boss tomorrow at work. I just wanted him here with me this one particular night. I didn't say it harshly at all. So he says they were talking business. I say, I understand, but he could have picked any other night and I would have been fine with it. He thinks I'm overreacting. Am I?

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Yes, you’re overreacting. If a boss wants to talk, it’s not simple to just leave.

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Yes, I think your hormones are getting the best of you.

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I don't particularly agree with the other comments. If it was during work hours, yes I'd feel obligated to stay and talk business. At 8:30 pm when you have to go pick up your phone you forgot, you can just say "hey thanks, Bill, for letting me back into the workshop. I really appreciate it, but I have to get back to my girlfriend/fiance/wife (you shouldn't have to give a reason but could say you're sick)." 
Unfortunately men don't think. I would definitely address the issue and let him know how it made you feel so he knows for the future. Men are oblivious. 🙄

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Unless he was sneaking around on purpose, it doesn’t seem like he was doing it intentionally. Hormones can make us crazy!

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I think its pathetic that at 10 o clock at night when your husband was supposed to be at home, he was at his bosses house talking business because he didnt have the balls to say 'sorry mate, ive got to get home to my family'. Its not an unreasonable thing to say, to anybody. Id say it to the freakin queen if my partner was at home struggling.  
Im 100% with you, you have every right to feel upset - i get upset when my bf works late, if he knows im waiting for him for whatever reason. Its not hard to find a work-home balance.

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Yes and no. I was really upset because on Valentine's evening my husband invited his brother over for supper with us 🙄 the reason was he had a lot of work that he HAD to get done that night so we could leave the next day, and his brother offered to help. I understood that but it still really hurt my feelings. We had gone out to eat for lunch together that same day and had a really great time so it wasn't like we didn't have a nice Valentine's. I was just emotional and wanted a good day completely alone with him. 
   Guys sometimes just do NOT get it. They don't do it to be mean, they're just innocently clueless to our emotions. We gotta give them space for mistakes. When you're calm, just try explaining a little better exactly how you felt and how him being gone made you feel all alone. Be as gentle as you can and try not to accuse him of actually not caring.

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I have to disagree with most comments. I think you are right. I don’t mind calling or talking business after work but if my family needs me and I’m done with work hours that takes priority. 
A simple “boss we can discuss tomorrow, my wife needs me right now” should suffice.

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I’m guessing that you have been ttc for a while for you to be that sad because of your period. So if you are upset about being out for the month, chances are he is too. 
Being sad is hard and it’s even harder for our husbands sometimes because they are sad too but they have to be supporting us in our sadness too. 
Maybe he was just trying to avoid doing that, because it gets unbearable for them too to have the sadness plus having to deal with our sadness.
Just a thought, I’d cut him some slack.
Hoping you have good luck next month ❤️

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I think you are a little. But I also see why you’re upset. It is really disappointing to get AF - but in his defense, you can’t expect him to forget about everything to spend the night w you bc you get AF every month it happens. I would suggest that instead, you find a different way to cope w getting AF

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