I’m married to my beautiful wife of 9 years.

We were both non religious people.

I started struggling with religion and fell into the I’m going to hell trap and started to go to church and question my identity and it lead me into a dark path.

I had an affair whilst going through all of this. I instantly regretted it. A condom was used and he pulled out. Somehow I still ended up pregnant. Currently 12weeks.

He is okay with an abortion or keeping the baby and wants to try to be a proper family.

I love my wife and don’t want to lose her. She’s always wanted me to carry our children but knowing of an affair would destroy her.

My options are:

1. Abort the baby, die with the secret of infidelity

2. Keep the baby, leave my wife and coparent with the guy

3. Keep the baby, tell my wife what happened and hope for the best.

Please check the judgement and provide some sister to sister advice. I know what I did was wrong. I just don’t know what to do now. Most days I feel like just disappearing...