When TTC

Let me ask y’all, my husband and I been TTC for about 9 months now, I feel like we tried EVERYTHING. (I think we did) I was wondering do you believe in the conceiving or do you not think about it? I was told when TTC I have to NOT think about it but that is all I think about, so I feel like that is why it is not happening for us. Hbu, what was your way or method?