My husband has three kids from previous relationships, none of which he’s seen since before we got together (long story). I’ve always been supportive of him trying to establish relationships and he’s always said he’s not ready. There are also issues with the kids’ mom’s being resistant and having another male figure that’s stepped in and possibly signed the birth certificates illegally.

Anyway. Recently he brought up his daughter and wanting to reach out. I told him I thought the best way under the circumstances was to speak with a lawyer.

Tonight he texts me while he’s been drinking and I’m pregnant that he’s been talking to his ex. I find out it’s been going on a for a month. Texts and phone calls that he says is strictly about his daughter.

I feel so betrayed. Not because he reached out but because he kept it from me. Especially when I’ve been so supportive. There have been infidelity issues on both of our parts that we’ve chosen to work past. I just can’t help but feel like the reason he kept it from me is because there’s more going on.

To top it off shortly after this I found out I failed my 3 hour glucose test. I had a panic attack because I was overwhelmed. He forced an argument on me and has tried to essentially blame me for his mistake. I tried to tell him I was heated and this wasn’t the time for a conversation but now he’s threatened divorce. It’s just a big mess. I’m feeling very hurt, lost, angry, etc.

Am I wrong for being upset that he kept this from me for so long? I share 100% of myself and life with him. I just expect the same in return.