Let me first say, my husband makes decent money, and was more than supportive when I told him it meant a lot to me to be a stay at home mom once our baby boy is born this august, which he agreed meant a lot to him as well. I currently work as a medical assistant at a clinic (which I will be done in April for a very long list of reasons). However, I was raised in order to be a team with your spouse, to always make your own money. Obviously, right now I have no reason not to work, and the extra income is never a bad thing. My husband has always told me that I have always done more than enough to help, by cooking, cleaning, keeping him happy and sane, and here soon being a mother which is a full time job on its own. He was raised in a family where the women never worked, their jobs were to tend to the children, husband, and home. NOW DONT GET IT TWISTED, my husband has never forced me to feel any type of way on the subject, and has never made any remarks on a “women’s expectations in a marriage”. He has ALWAYS supported all my decisions and been a huge guidance in my life. However, being the situation with his family, he’s also very encouraging and very understanding that I want to stay at home with our son which I am so thankful for.

My biggest question is: how did you ladies use your husbands income without seeming pushy? Did they just give you their cards? Did you agree on a certain budget of spending a month that was given the in cash? Do you ask each time you need any money? I have always had my own money, even though my husband happily pays for almost everything anyway, as I don’t make a lot. I just feel weird being like “okay I need your money, our son needs some clothes, we need groceries. I guess I don’t understand how it works as I’ve never done it before. I know my husband would always give me money for anything for our home and son etc. however, I see some SAHM would go to stores and are constantly spending money on stuff like getting their hair done, their nails done, buying new shoes, etc. not that any of those things are bad, and maybe they discussed those things with their husbands, i just personally feel out of place asking for any money. How do you girls approach the situation, I’m so lost!

Thanks 😊