So my husband has two teenage boys, 11 and 13 and he is the worst when it comes to discipline with them. I believe he has the guilt parent syndrome because I don’t know why else he would let them do whatever they want, all the time. I’m almost 37 weeks pregnant now and I have completely given up on cleaning up after them because they are old enough and very well capable of doing so by themselves. I’ve left dirty cups on the kitchen table for well over a week, empty boxes in the pantry for over 2 weeks from all the snacks they’ve eaten and now throw away after themselves, hoping that maybe my husband would catch on and I really don’t think he has.

I used to nag them constantly about cleaning up after themselves but I’m tired of being the only enforcer, especially since they aren’t my kids and I believe they are going to resent me for it since he doesn’t stand behind me all the time. With a newborn baby on the way I have given up completely cleaning up after them.

Also, the oldest one currently has an F in school and my husband has no punished him one bit for it. His mother has taken his cellphone away but he still has the tv with fire stick in his room, can go outside to play, basically everything he’s been able to do around here. THEN my husband takes him fishing because he wanted to go. When he text me that I had no problem replying with “way to punish kid who has an F in school” his response “ok”.

I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore other than give up and TRY to now let this stuff bother me.

What do you other mamas think? Am I just being hormonally crazy or is my husband wrong for what he has been doing? What would y’all do?

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