I know I’m going to sound like a witch for saying this but I have to get it off my chest. My husband is ridiculous. He never listens to me and I feel like he is neglecting our son for his stupid video games. Just tonight he had a diaper party to go to sadly I had to work (finding babysitters through the week is hard and daycare is like a mortgage) because I have to work to take days off during the week he had to take the baby with him. No big deal as it was his best friends party and the house that he was going to had tons of stuff for him to play with. Well my best friend (she’s married to his best friend and they are expecting the baby ergo the party) offered to take him for the day which was very nice of her. Around 7 I called my husband to check in to see how everything was going (party started at 3pm was hoping it was over by now) he was playing video games with his best friend. I asked him to please make sure the baby was home and in bed by 9pm the latest. Normally our sons bed time is 8 but because of the circumstance I was ok with 9. Well at 9:30 I called to see if they made it home to find that he was still at his best friends house and was also not paying any attention to our son who was crawling around the room entertaining himself. I flipped my lid and layed into him how the baby needs to be home and in bed and that he never listens to me. He just kept telling me that “it’s the weekend and he’s fine he doesn’t seem tired and what’s the big deal if they left at 10” I said that didn’t matter cause you have a child and have to do what’s in the best interest of him not what you want it doesn’t work like that anymore. He told me the baby was fine and to calm down. I had to hang up before I said something I regretted. This isn’t the first time he hasn’t listened to me and it’s not he first time he’s ignored our son to do what he wants. I’m 2 seconds away from breaking all his games and smashing his PlayStation cause that’s all he does when I’m working late and not home. I don’t care if he plays it when the baby is asleep but he will play it all day long and ignore our son when he’s awake.

I don’t know what to do. I have sacrificed so much of my life for our baby and I’m happy to do it but it seems my husband still wants to do what he wants and not give up anything. He gets to hang out with his friends all the time and I stay behind to watch our son. I know that sometimes he needs a break but I don’t think it’s fair to me cause I don’t get to have those. If I have a girls day with my friends I always bring the baby with me cause he doesn’t want to watch him. I’m just lost and don’t know what to do. I love my husband deeply I just wish that he loved us just as deeply.

Update

So I had him call me when he got home to discuss how I felt and as usual he became a monotone yes dear guy basically just going along with what I say. I did Learn that he feels that I don’t trust him with the baby cause I “blow up his phone” asking about him. When I text my husband to ask about our son to to make sure he isn’t eating Mac and cheese for dinner if he had it for lunch and to make sure he took a nap for him cause he normally takes one nap a day and sometimes he will for me and sometimes he will fight it and take a nap for my husband. On some level I guess I don’t trust him 100% with the baby but I do trust him. I trust that he will feed him and change his diapers and do naps no problem it’s giving him the attention he needs that I don’t trust. I’ve watched him when I’m home how he acts with the baby when he plays the video games and I don’t like what I see. He will either stick him in his bouncer for hours on end or let him wander our living room after he gates up the doorways. I like to craft I do tons of them but I only work on them after all the house work is done and if the baby is sleeping. When they said moms give up more than dads I didn’t think it was true but seeing my husband act this way is an eye opener.