I’m not sure if I’d say my boyfriend is controlling but I’m starting to get an uneasy feeling about him although i believe I’m in love with him. We’ve been together 5 months and from the beginning I’ve felt he was perfect for but I noticed early on he was quite possessive. Nothing too alarming I mean nobody really wants anyone to lust after their partner or the thought of them straying so I felt it was justified. Anyhoo, he always wants us to be together, 2 months in he was trying to get me to move in with him and even offered to buy me a whole new wardrobe which would be kept at his place, an amazing gesture but I felt that was his way of subtly controlling how I dress, he always tells me I look nice but ends it with “but you shouldn’t wear...” and his reasoning is because guys will look, he even prefers me to wear men’s sweatpants than women’s because they’re a looser fit. I do some modelling work and I’ve started noticing he always tries to sabotage my castings in some way or another, the first time he covered my neck in love bites the night before whilst I was asleep (I’m practically dead when I’m asleep), the next time there was a specific dress code and he offered to iron my clothes as I was rushing but somehow managed to burn them and I didn’t have anything else. Now the past few times I’ve stayed at his on a work night I’ve either woken up late or cut it really close, I put it down to me forgetting to put my alarm on but last night I definitely did I even screenshotted it as I thought I was going mad but again I woke up late and ended up being late for work. I asked him if he turned my alarm off and he said no, but when I was rushing to get to work he said that I shouldn’t be killing myself to go to work I should just stay with him and he’ll take care of me. I don’t want to think the worst and maybe I should feel flattered that he’s like this but it’s not sitting well with me. Help!

Thank you for the response ladies, the only reason I say I’m unsure if he’s controlling may be my naivety but its due to the fact he’s not really forceful with the blatant stuff like the way I dress or what I do he may say I shouldn’t wear something but he won’t try to stop me it’s more passing comments. Say if I put on tight jeans and he says you shouldn’t wear jeans that tight, I’ll say I like them and wear them and he doesn’t kick off or create a bigger issue out of it, it’s left at a comment. The alarm thing he definitely is turning it off because when I stay at home there’s never an issue.

I say I “believe” I’m in love with him simply because it hasn’t been very long that we’ve been together and although my feelings for him are strong there is still a doubt there, without the doubt it would be more than a belief.