Okay guys I don’t know who needs to hear this but if your man/woman doesn’t make you happy, if it’s hard to be in a relationship with that person, if they make you feel bad about yourself, if you feel like you’re constantly having to walk around eggshells to make them happy, if you feel like you’re not good enough for them, then break things off.. I just recently got out of a relationship with this guy named jaden and it was so hard for me. I used to be the happiest person ever, I did what I wanted, I didn’t have to be held accountable for anything (I wasn’t a hoe or anything) but I did things that made me happy and hung out with the people I loved. When I got with jaden, it was so great at first, but then after a few months of getting comfortable with one another things changed.. he started asking me to stop talking to my close guy friends, convinced me that anytime I talked to another guy that it was “leading them on”, convinced me that what I wore was considered “slutty” in other guys eyes.. he pushed me to do sexual things with him when I didn’t want to, and he ended up taking my virginity, and I felt so nasty, it didn’t feel right, I felt so insecure.. but if I stopped he would get mad... he tried to push what he thought on me constantly, he would get mad if I wouldn’t do certain things for him and me not wanting to hurt him and wanting to be the best gf ever, I have in to what he said.. I let myself believe that he was right, he would manipulate me to think that the decisions I made were bad, I started to believe this and rely solely on him on every single decision, and when I didn’t, he would get mad and tell me I didn’t listen to anything he said.. then tell me he loves me with all his heart.. finally after 10 months of this continuous toxic relationship, I started to realize how unhappy I was, how mean and manipulative he was towards me.. I was completely broken in my spirit, I wasn’t the happy careless girl I used to be, I did everything for him.. I didn’t care about my well being if it made him happy.. I didn’t worry about myself because, In my naive mind, I was helping him and I thought that made me happy but it didn’t.. my family started to notice how unhappy I was and how sad I had become and they asked me if I was okay and I completely cut them out of my emotional life, I only talked to Jaden about things.. but hey, i was making him happy, why wasn’t I happy? I realized one day I said hi to one of my old friends max in the hall way and he didn’t say anything and I said “why don’t you say hi back?” And he said “I don’t want Jaden to be mad at me”... that hit me hard, I realized how much he controlled and how he knew exactly what to say to get me to this point.. I ended things with him and still he tried telling me things to try to get me back and he would try to lean on me emotionally but today I finally told him I couldn’t be the one to be his emotional support.. he always made me feel like if I wasn’t there for him, he would end up killing himself.. he would end up so much worse because I didn’t have the right words to say.. I told him today I couldn’t do it anymore, I feel so free, I feel like this weight was lifted off of me.. I’m not scared to talk to certain friends anymore, I can do whatever I want now!! I don’t have to live in fear of making him happy, I can do what makes me happiest! I don’t feel depressed anymore, And over time I’m sure I will feel worth it again. I will get better, I will get stronger and I will find someone who is so much better for me and who will love everything about me and respect me and not take advantage of me.. girls, don’t let anyone, and I mean ANYONE, take control of you. You are your own person, you should never let anyone make you feel small, or not good enough, or not pretty enough, you should have people that respect, love and care for you! Who hype you up about what you’re wearing, not tell you that you’re a slut. When someone looks at your ass, your mate should grab it, or say something like “yeah that’s mine, you can look but you can’t touch” not blame you for someone else looking! That’s not your fault! Your significant other should show you off to the world and be so proud to call you theirs, not put you in a box where only they can see. Don’t let anyone treat you less than what you are. Cause ladies, you are all goddesses, empresses, queens, you are gorgeous in every single way. Don’t let anyone tell you different.