How many of you encourage your s/o to go out with their friends often? My husband plays hockey twice a week and stays out after to hang out, so that’s at least 2x a week every week. Sometimes he goes out to someone’s house or a bar as well.

On Friday he went to watch a hockey game then went out after. I texted him at like 11 pm to see if the game was done and he said they went out (a bar, restaurant then another bar). I had to work at 6:30 am the next day and I was having anxiety about him being out so I couldn’t sleep. A siren woke me at 2:30 and I woke in s panic. The bar closed at / so I texted him with a ‘?’ Cause he should have been home since it’s 15 min walk from our house. Then he said he was waiting for a cab and 15 mins later he texted that he stopped for a smoke (not cigarette). I texted back ‘wtf’ since at this point it’s been an hour since the bar closed.

When he came home I heard him on the porch but didn’t hear the door so I went downstairs in case he forgot his keys and turns out he was inside already so I told him I didn’t want to talk since I was so mad. He followed me upstairs and was yelling at me and swearing really loud (we have 2 kids sleeping upstairs). I told him to stop yelling but he kept going and I’m sitting in bed crying so hard I can’t breathe (I’m also 23 weeks pregnant) and he said he wasn’t leaving. He was drunk so I told him we can talk tomorrow (this was 3:30am and I had to get up for work soon). Anyways, he said some horrible things to me saying I had no life and I should get some friends. He said that other wives would be happy to encourage their husband to go out well to me, hanging with friends and going to s bar are different things and I feel he hangs out with his friends more than most people with young children. He also said I should be happy that he does chores for me (such as his own laundry) and blames me for my son having his iPad when apparently he wasn’t supposed to (his would I know that!!)

So my question is, am I overreacting??? I’ve been crying all weekend wondering if I should leave this marriage. This is the second time he’s gotten so mad I was actually scared. What do you all think??

* update to answer question. I do have friends but most of them are moms so we don’t hang out often and when we do it’s with the kids, not going out to bars. I never said he can’t hang out with friends, as I mentioned he does at LEAST twice a week. The problem is him coming home an hour after a bar closes and yelling at me saying those things plus he said he shouldn’t even have to text me where he is or when he’s coming home.

We haven’t talked about it, he’s acting like every thing is normal and honestly nothing will change so I need to really think things through. I’m not ok with being yelled at like that and him saying I’m a loser and not even apologizing the next day.