Riding the you know what..

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and I love him to death. Our sex life is pretty meh and kinda non existent right now. And when we do have sex It’s always the same moves for him lol. I’ve tried to tell him to do other stuff but he’s so vanilla. But anyways My question is this, when I’m on top I feel like I’m not doing it right. I didn’t even think that’s such a thing. I’m pretty sure being on top is more for the woman anyways. So yeah when I’m on top, he never helps me. I’m basically doing all the work. He might have his hands on my hips but he’s not doing anything!! I mean I’m riding back and forth or up and down and I feel like he’s not getting any pleasure from it and it makes me not even want to be on top. Oh yeah and there’s been times when I’ve almost broken his dick!! 😂😂😂 I’ve never had the problem with any other guy but him. I don’t know what to do!! Ekkkkkk