I posted here yesterday about reaching out to my "ex" who I dated for a few months but was never official with. There was a pretty huge misunderstanding but it resulted in his trust being damaged and we're still not 100% in the same boat about what happened. We didn't talk for about two weeks in between because we were initially both very angry and upset.

But I reached out last night and it actually went really really well. We both talked and listened to eachothers sides and were extremely respectful. We laughed because it was a weird convo to be having but after an hour things seemed just like they always did. Anyway, I told him that I hate to burn bridges and really appreciate having him in my life and he said the same. He told me that he'd definitely like to be friends and see how it works out (since neither of us really know how much or how little we'll be talking yet). He said that he wasn't pursuing anything romantic though.

I'm really happy because he's truly a great person and I'm happy to see he thinks the same of me and that we could be mature and talk this through and respect eachothers personal viewpoints on the situation.

.....buuuut the issue is that I think I still kind of have feelings for him. Not super strong, but I'm still attracted to him and I'd say I like him. Like, I don't think we should jump back into dating right now but I also wouldn't be upset if somewhere down the line it ends up working out again. But I think both of us are kinda wary of jumping back in because it's more comfortable to just be friends and not risk losing eachother rather than making things official and having diff factors (like distance- he's in the military) get in the way. The prospect of losing him was so painful and I don't wanna risk that again, at least not right now. Not sure if he still has feelings for me or not, I didn't ask.

Was our decision a good or bad one?