So my first son Jake is 3 and we just had our second blessing Luke 1/31/19.

We had given Jake alot of talks during my pregnancy about how there will be a baby soon and we love them both, and tried to prepare him for the big change that was about to happen with our family.

Jake has started to become aggressive with Luke. Kicks at him, says he doesn't love him, says he is gross, glairs at him, and has an obvious resentment twards Luke. We still do one on one time with Jake. I do learning time, bake with him, and take him out to mom and jake lunches. My husband takes him out and does things with him also. We remind him that there is enough love for both of them.

As a new mom I do tend to spend more time with luke as I breastfeed, pump, and most of the care. I try and involve Jake in things like helping me give Luke baths, helping me change diapers, ext. Jake is always excited to help and there are times he will say Luke's cute and gently rub his head.

Jake also had an anger issue befor Luke was born. He bites, hits, kicks, and throws things. We have made progress and he hasn't done those things in over a month. I also should add that his speach isn't where it should be and we often don't know what he is saying. He doesn't have all of the autism symptoms so his doctor has ruled out that. But he does seem to have some sensory issues. He has sensitive ears and simple things send him into a tantrum. Is this a normal 3 year old? I feel like I'm failing and I just want my son to know he is dearly loved. I tell him every chance I get but I think he feels otherwise. Please give me advice on bonding techniques for preschoolers and newborns. And if this is normal behavior for a preschooler? Is this a phase? I want my boys to love each other and know they are loved.

Holding Luke for the first time.

He is obsessed with John Deere tractors 💚💛💚