Is this ok?

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SO still associates with his parents (as far as hanging out at their house without us and chatting on the phone) even though they want nothing to do with his baby because I'm his wife and the mother of the baby. They want nothing to do with me either. I'm more sad about my baby and could careless about myself in this situation.

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My mother had been informed she will not be around my child if she doesn't get over the fact of who the father will be. My dad is fine withmy boyfriend, my mom is being a stubborn twat.

I'd say no, he either needs to put his foot down and tell them what's what or step away.

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He is your husband you and his baby are his primary if his family won't accept you as his family he should turn there back on them they will give you and your baby the respect he demands from them

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I wouldn't tolerate that. My husband and I are a unit. If you don't like one of us, suck it up or move along. We have had issues on both asides and have remained unified. Our families have learned to suck it up because they know they have to. You aren't going anywhere. They need to get over it and he needs to tell them, respect my wife, otherwise you don't respect me and I won't be around for that.

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They are his parents. You should be urging him to have a relationship with them and convince them why they are being irrational.

Never try and tear a person  away from their biological family. It is their choice of they want to have a relationship or not. Not only is it just wrong to dictate to them not to see their parents, but will cause a rift in your relationship.

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My mom was in the same situation. After 20 years my dad still can't be close to his mother because she still hates my mom. My mom never stopped him from trying to make a relationship with his mom but my dad can't stand for that. My mom , and I'm sure you too, haven't done anything to your in laws. So I think he should really side with you but at the same time if he wants to have a relationship with his mom I say let him. I know it still hurts my dad that he can't even call his mom on Mother's Day because she can't stand that he's still happy with her.

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I'm surprised at how many people voted it's not ok for him to associate with his parents!

You want him to cut off the people who cared for him his entire life? I'm sorry but I would never request that.

Have you asked him why they treat you that way? Have you tried talking to them? I feel like there has to be an underlying reason as to why they refuse to associate with you and their future grandchild. I can't imagine someone not wanting to know their grandchild.

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They are his parents, what do you expect him to do?

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I think him turning his back on his family is a little harsh. Does he (emotionally) support you and show you with actions he's going to be there for you and his child? If so, either try to compromise or let it go.  My family doesn't like my (pregnant) sis' bf for very good reasons and my stepmom got mad at her for taking his side when he was wrong. Now we won't know her baby till HE says it's ok. It sucks bc while I'm prego too...technically hers would've been the first grandchild.

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Are you the same one with the family that won't aknowlegde the baby? If so, you already have a discussion going. If not, my apologies.

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I'm in a very similar situation. My wife's parents refuse to acknowledge me or our baby due to the fact that my wife is not blood related to the child. They are also very devout Christians which I think is a big reason why they don't even accept our relationship. However the numerous rude and just plain insensitive comments they have said to my wife and I have made me lose all respect for them. Here are some examples: that I am the biggest mistake my wife has ever made, I am leading her down a dark path that leads to hell, and this baby is not hers it is someone else's not hers( obviously because that's biology but it is her daughter just as much as she is mine even though it's my womb) 
The point is. I don't forgive them for what they have said even though they haven't even apologized. She stil communicates with them because their her parents raised her and I get it so I don't interfere. However there will come a day when they might want to be in our lives and involve there grandchild and I don't know if I will be able to forgive them for the terrible things they said..... I guess we will cross the bridge when we come to it. I'm sorry you are going through this . It's hard I know it is.

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