For those of you who have been trying for years

Like 3 or more years...just curious: are you actively trying every month, timing ovulation and counting down the days until you can test, or is it like an on and off thing? I just keep seeing posts about people trying for 5, some even 10 years, and I just don’t know if I could persist that long. Don’t get me wrong, I admire you ladies. I just passed the 6-month mark and me and my hub are trying to decide how long we are going to continue trying, and how far we should go with fertility treatments, etc.