I'm going to be honest, I don't even know where to start. First does it really matter how long we've been friends (10 years). I've been friends with my besfriend for 10 years. But.. I'm starting to think I don't want her as a friend. First I was just getting annoyed - she would show up at my house no warning for various stupid reasons - randomly say "oh I don't feel school so I'll just come to your house." (I'm a home school student, and I live 2 blocks from the school) and she'll always come here after school to be picked up when she could easily take the bus or be picked up at school. She always tries to talk me into coming back to an "actual" school. She just ... she never wants to leave me alone, she doesn't understand I no longer need a friend who is around 24/7 I don't wanna habe sleepovers every weekend, see her every after school or text her all the time. (She had a boyfriend, every time she came over she'd be over for an hour tops and then be like oh would you mind if I go to his place (we'd be the ones driving her back and forth cause for awhile her parents didn't know) so I got used to her not being around at all and for awhile yeah it sucked and I voiced it to her (she claims "oh I don't remember doing that) and then theres the texting "oh I need tater time" ... most annoying sentence in the entire world. I think what gets me most is she claims it's a 911 kinda thing. Then I find out it's over nothing or she just wanted to see to see me. Or oh before that get mad at me cause I'm never there for her (because she would never tell me when something was wrong, I'm not a mind reader.) You see... I used to be very depressed and mopey, my mom believes that my best friend misses that I needed her constantly and that she tries to bring me down on purpose just so she can be that shoulder to cry on. Now I don't like to tell her when I'm going through a rough patch because guess what? She never listenes. She's that type of person if it's not all about her 😒 you know what i mean? And I get annoyed with giving her advice (that she asks for) and never even considers and gets pissed off that I'm blunt and don't sugar coat things anymore when she repeadly does something stupid (like freaking about being pregnant and had unprotected sex again a day later) and from said unprotected sex got pregnant and had a miscarriage (now ive never had one so .. i couldn't give any perspective) and still had to throw it in my face that "i wasn't there for her" well no shit. Not when you don't tell me that's what happened. Now ive told her that since it upsetes her about the miscarriage that maybe she should see a counslor - and to see a counsler for her depression. Nope. Let's talk to me about it over and over and still complain I can't understand (i know that i cant understand ) and lets get mad at me because I have a boyfriend who treats me right and throw in my face "friends will always be there, he won't" and then act all jealous and say "i bet you still see him evey night" which in my defense, no i do not, Why? Oh that's right theres this thing called life. What makes me a bit peeved is now that i have a Boyfriend apparently that's a free pass for her to drag him into fights. Now im going to be completely honest if he wasn't around to talk with id go mental. Now i did try and stop being friends with her, she kept trying to make me talk by showing up at my house saying "I owe her an explanation and that this is all my fault I'm to blame" (and im not saying I'm completely innocent) but when i told her i needed space space and would talk when I felt i could do it rationally I was told i had no right and that i HAD to talk and that it wasn't my decision. Now then there the fact that while we were fighting she decided to talk with my ex and tell.me they bonded over miscarriage experiences (.. however when his gf had her misscarige he straight up told me he was glad and didn't care) and then the day we make up bail on me for 3 hours to go hangout with him and then ask me if I'll throw this in her face later. Now e was some history between the three of us (I loved him, he was my first, then she claimed she thought she liked him and kissed him and then asked me if i was ok) just some backstory. this also happened with a crush of mine Amd then again with another ex ( i wasn't mad because we both knew that we were just meant to be good friends) so they starting dating a day later. there is a lot of history but now im starting to see that the good does not outway the bad .