I feel like my husband isn't coping emotionally as a first time parent and I am the one dealing with his emotions because he cant. I just about died during an emergency cesarean then had to go back into the OR 24 hours later when my stitches came undone. Everything ended well. I made peace with it. We brought our daughter home Christmas Day. He complains that we didn't get a Christmas and either downplays or exaggerates my time in the OR.

Our daughter has been so good and easy for the most part. But when she fusses or spits up he can't deal. He will swear in frustration even when I say, "I know she can't understand words yet but she can pick up on your tone. Please don't swear around her." I can't hand her off unless she isn't fussing. The smallest things set him off and two nights ago he slept on the couch after I tried to explain to him why I fold certain pieces of laundry the way I do.

We still aren't talking. He goes to work, comes home, watches TV or goes in his laptop then goes to bed. If I'm lucky he will take her long enough for me to shower. Tonight I asked if we were going to continue not speaking or if we could move on and in short I was told he didn't want to talk to me because that would just give me an opportunity to bitch at him.

Everyone talks about mommy blues but no one talks about daddy blues and quite honestly? I want to help him but I can't help or support when I am shut out and he won't face his own feelings. I'm just losing my patience and can't handle his inability to cope and deal any more.