My so and I have been together 4 years. I am 25 and he is 28. I have a year and a half left of nursing school and he is a CPA well established in his career. I have to admit I have been very pushy about planning when are we going to get married, get a dog, have kids, buy a house- you know the happily ever after. We have had several arguments about it because he wants me to finish school before we do anything. At first I was just anxious because I’m not getting any younger and those are the things I am excited about. We have always been on the same page- we want all the same things, so he has always said. Well I think I finally broke him. I think I pushed and pushed so much that he said “I always thought of kids as a future thing, but now the more you bring it up the more I realize I still think of it as a future thing and I don’t know if that will ever change. I don’t know for sure if I want kids. I am scared I won’t want to take on the responsibility of children, or if I’ll be a good father. Children are a lot of responsibility and I have to be 100% sure I am willing to take that on and I don’t know if I ever will get to that point”.

My heart is broken. I’m not ready to give up on a relationship based on him saying that he may or may not want kids in the future.- I ask if he is leaning one way or another and he says he is right in the middle... that is no help. So I’m thinking that this is maybe somewhat normal and if we just focus on our current life and let things naturally progress, we’ll get to a point where kids will happen. That’s a huge gamble though...6 years together and then find out that he doesn’t want kids and I’ll be almost 30.. I have a hard time believing he would string me along because he knows how bad I want to have children. Not just children but a family with him. I feel like he was just desperate for the conversations to stop. I put a lot of pressure on him and overwhelmed him to the point of breaking down and saying that.. side note: I talked to his sister and she said she was like that too at his age and the only thing that changed was age. Any thoughts???? I’m lost, confused and exhausted.