so early december i met a guy. he was charming, good looking, and i got a pretty massive crush really quick.

fast forward about two weeks and he asks me out. i was so, so happy. he said he wanted to keep it quiet in case it didn’t end up working, and that was fine with me.

anyway, about two weeks afterwards we were going strong. but then, out of the fucking blue, he messages me this:

which pretty much breaks my heart. that had been the reason he’d kept shit so quiet.

anyway, we talk, i’m mad as fuck, but i forgive him. which i really regret, because that was the biggest red flag. i should’ve left him there and then. but i didn’t.

anyway, eventually we sort it out. maybe a week or two later he went to a party which was no big deal, my dumbass trusted him. he started calling me his girlfriend which was nice.

another thing: he’d dated around A LOT and talked about his exes quite a bit. i eventually told him that i’d rather he not do that and to his credit, he reeled it in a bit.

but before the party he was talking about one of his exes. and it made me feel pretty inferior bc she was STUNNING.

fast forward the next morning, there’s a video of him saying he made out with someone and MULTIPLE photos of him cuddling up to his ex.

i confronted him, he denied it, and ALL my friends are telling me to dump him. but what do i do? stay with him. because he meant so much. but at that point i knew he wouldn’t stay much longer anyway.

the next day he breaks up with me because ‘his mum found out’. she didn’t, i’m sure. because it’s been about a month and he and his ex are back together and have been for roughly three weeks.

and i’m still not over him :( he treated me like shit, he lied, and gaslighted, and there’s no way i miss the actual relationship but i do miss him.

i know the whole situation is caused by my poor judgement but do you ladies have ANY advice/comments? i’m just fucking sad.