Help, i cant live without him?

Long, but please bear, and give me any ideas!

Im a sahm, with 3 kids under 3. Im the only one taking care of all of them, even with the husband home. All he does is sit his ass, while i bust my ass around 24/7.

I never wanted to be a sahm in the 1st place, i never wanted to marry at a young age, 19 until i become fully independent w myself. But then, things happened so quick. Anyways, i became a sahm for the husbands sake, and our marriage. Hed act like it was a mistake to marry me cause i dont want to be a sahm.

Anyways, been a sahm for 5yrs now, sigh... and husband keeps acting like i am unrealiable, and cant do shit. Without him i will die. Without him i cant do anything at all. I am very useless he said.

But i always see me doing things wout him, only thing is i dont have my license, but sometimes i drive myself. Not only this, ive proven to myself and him many times when we separated, that i can do things my own wout him, and get more help w my kids.

He makes me snowblow and mow the lawn, take the trash out, even being pregnant.

Hed compare me to other women that they can do it, but i cant. Theyre better. He says, "A WOMAN WHO IS BUSY, VIBRANT, PASSIONATE, AND GOAL ORIENTED IS MORE ATTRACTED THAN I AM." But when i leave him, im all of a sudden better...

What should i say to him the next time he spits out that i cant do anything wout him?

And how do i become a woman who is vibrant, busy, passionate, and goal oriented while still married to him? I was all this before i married this shitbag, but i gave it all up for him.