So little backstory. When I was pregnant with my first daughter, we had told both sets of parents that we just wanted it to be my husband and I at the hospital.

I had a birth plan and that included us spending uninterrupted time with Cheyenne after she was born. As such I told them that we didnt want anyone at the hospital. Well birth plan didnt go according to plan, my water broke and I had to be induced, which then led me to get an epidural. No biggie, I know plans change and labor is unpredictable. I had wanted it to be pain med free but meh.

Anyway, the minute we told people we would be going to the hospital to get induced, my husbands mom shows up. She waits x hours until our doctor was born and then when my husband didn't come out right away and a nurse came out to make the big announcement, she stormed off and didnt see her first granddaughter for over a week. I've never seen my husband so upset and hurt, on the day that should have been the happiest day of his life. I have honestly not fully forgiven her.

Now with baby 2 only a short 2 months away (Haha everyone knows the last 2 months are the longest) I'm really starting to get anxious about the whole thing again. I'm not even afraid of going into labor or delivering a baby out my hoohaw! I'm anxious about his mom will react. Especially with baby 2 I want us to have the time to bond with her since there wont be much 1 on 1 time. Is it wrong for me to want to labor at home as long as possible and not even tell her when we are going in? Like I dont want to have to lie to her but I think the only way to not have her there is to just not tell her and then play it off like it was really sudden and we only had time to drop my first off at my parents.

Am I being selfish? Because that's what they called me last time around, apparently wanting to enjoy my baby is selfish...

Sorry for the long vent/post.