Caught my husband lying about texting an old “girl” friend

Last night I noticed my husband was acting weird on his phone. He seemed to be talking to someone but when I asked who he wouldn’t answer me. About five minutes later he looks at his phone, walks down the hall and I know he must be texting whoever he’s not telling me he’s talking to. I’m thinking hmmm this is weird if it’s just a friend why would he be so Mysterious about it? When he comes back he sits at his computer checking out a truck he wants to get im standing there as he pulls out his phone to call the guy and see a name I don’t recognize in his text messages. So I sit back down calmly and look thru his friends on Facebook and Instagram on my phone to find anyone who matches the name I saw. Found a girl who lives in Arizona and both her fb and instagram photos have multiple likes by my husband. Pictures aren’t anything crazy. And I think maybe it’s someone he’s knows from school? Just thought it was weird he wouldn’t tell me when I asked who he was texting so much. I decided to give him three more chances to tell me. I ask him three separate times who he’s been talking to and he straight lies to me and tells me he’s been talking to two of his guy friends I know. And at this point I know he’s lying. I’m so bummed out. He falls asleep and I go to put something back in the fridge when I hear our iPad go off and there’s a message from another random girl he used to know responding to a what’s up message. I’m feeling really insecure and paranoid at this point so I open the messenger and see the text message girl in there too. He reached out to both girls both seeming sort of surprised he had at all. Conversation is innocent and nothing inappropriate is said but there’s never mention of me or our baby on the way. Just that he’s in a complex situation and working a lot and going thru a lot of changes.

I couldn’t sleep all night and he could feel it. He asked what was wrong and I spilled it all. He got really defensive and just said he wanted a friend to talk to and I explained to him that if he is talking to someone (innocent or not) and feels the need to hide it from me it’s probably a bad idea. I felt like a lot of my observations I pointed out to him were not addressed and he focused on the parts of the argument he could make about him feeling like he needed more support from friends and I wasn’t giving him that.

We ended up making up and he apologized and understood how seeing all that could be really upsetting and we are getting along just fine but I feel fucking terrible. I’m about 6 months pregnant with our first kid. I feel heart broken and now that I’ve confronted and addressed the issue I feel like he’s going to continue to do it but be better at hiding it. He can tell me a thousand times that he was just looking for a friend to talk to but I know if that conversation continues he’s going to say/do something really stupid and I don’t know what I’m going to do then.