Help!! **long
I need advice ASAP.
My ex & I were together for 5 years. Recently the relationship has become very toxic, volatile and just plain horrible. It began last August when he lied to me about paying the rent for 3 months (he had lost his job and would pretend to earn $$.. when bills would bounce he lied and pretended something was wrong... even went as far as going to the bank.. and they called him out there). So by the time I found out rent was 3 months late, it was eviction time already and the bills so stacked up I would have to strip to pay them.
I was not working due to being in nursing school and a stay at home mom. I trusted him.. let my guard down. So my kids and I were out of a place to live... had to drop out of nursing school.. quickly become a dancer and find a new place to live before my rental history got f***** and my ex disappeared. Came home one day and him and things were gone. Guessing from shame. I felt abandoned.. heartbroken.. played. Fast forward to November 2018... I began missing him for some stupid reason. I realized that I loved him and it was worth trying one more time for my family. Took a lot of convincing and I wanted to believe he was truly sorry as he always did right by me prior to this. Well... he did it again feb of 2019. Only this time I’m employed thankfully and it did not take him 5 years. The owner of the gym he was working at fired him and claimed he stole money from
Clients and from him.
He got a job as a personal trainer in December and things were going great so I thought.. come to find out he never made any $$ there the whole time... the instability and the lies are crazy. So He’s ex military and diagnosed with PTSD (I found this out barely last year). Loved him anyway but I’ve dealt with a massive load of shit and even exposed my kids to his abusive and crazy behaviors. This was the last time I let him screw me over and lie about finances. My energy is drained and I’m always let down.
So I kicked him out today once and for all.... he leaves dramatically.. cussing me out.. calling me everything under the sun and so loud my neighbors come out to check on me. Embarrassing. Well... he has no money. I mean zero dollars. Its 30 degrees out. He has no money to eat.. no family to turn to (he screwed them over financially as well and his mom lives out of state and is a drug addict) father is dead. He has no friends. Best friend died in combat.
He’s 34 years old out homeless sleeping in the street with nothing but a suitcase.
THE GUILT IS EATING ME ALIVE.
He is a fully capable, grown man but he has no job or place to sleep or survive. I feel incredibly burdened. I want him out of my life so badly... but I can’t function knowing he’s literally homeless right now. WHAT DO I DO?
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