Is wanting to be in control over everything a sign of mental disorder?

No hate please.

Mental issues run through my family. I have issues when it comes to wanting everything to be under my control. Finances, accounts, etc. and when I’m not in control I start freaking out, and get upset. I’m not controlling relationship wise. But sometimes I get irritated at my boyfriend for not doing things my way, I get anxious and I end up telling him to get away and that I’ll handle it.

I’m wondering if this is underlying a more serious issue that’s going on.