My boyfriend and I are fairly young, both 21, finishing our last semester of college and graduating this spring. We’ve been dating for 3 months, but we’re both pretty serious about the relationship. We’ve met and spent a lot of time with each others’ families, we know everything about each other, we’ve already gone through a lot of major life events in the few months we’ve been together, and we’re both on the same page about wanting more (wedding, dog, kids, etc.) We discussed all of this within the first few weeks of our relationship, and the feelings are all still true.

But here’s the scary part... He has been engaged before. They dated for about a year in college before he proposed, but eventually broke things off. He briefly dated one other girl after her, before our relationship. I don’t have any doubts or worries about him. I love him, and he shows me how much he loves me every single day. But I do have to wonder if it’s a little troublesome for him to be talking about wanting to marry me after just 3 months together.

Of course I believe that “when you know, you know,” but I can’t help but feel like things would be different if he hadn’t been engaged before. It honestly makes me feel a little insecure. Like what’s so different about me than his ex? What made him want to marry her, and how am I any different?

Ugh, i’m sure i’m just overthinking this, but any advice or reassurance would be so welcome. 😩