Abusive Roommate?

Update: we went grocery shopping, I paid of course, and she kept mentioning how she wanted unnecessary stuff, like $4 mop coffee things...I have kids, bills, and a baby on the way so I’m trying to save money plus I don’t feel like I’m obligated to buy her anything. I kinda just walked away, making my answer clear that I’m NOT buying her anything. My main focus is that her son & my kids have food. She walks over to the wine & is looking at it, after we left the store in the car, she pulls them out of her purse. SHE STOLE WHILE WITH MY KIDS & HER SON & ME. I’m LIVID. I do NOT condone nor do I support such behavior. It makes me fear what else shes capable of. At this point I feel it’s no longer my place to help her, if she refuses to help herself especially. I am going to be looking for another place to live, & starting to saving up money to live. I will be building up evidence while I can, & when I move out I will be turning her in to DHS. I also will be keeping my distance from her and our home & keeping my kids at a distance from her as well.

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I’m not share where to vent so I felt this might be a safe place...

I ran into an issue, moved into a small town with my boyfriend, as soon as I got pregnant again he took off. I couldn’t find a job since the town consisted of one store, etc, so I took the risk of loading my kids up and moving an hour away. My friends ex, I’d never met her, was needing a roommate so I took the chance of room-mating with her. She has a 16 month old son, so I figured it would be a good fit. We moved into a cheap, small house. Figured it would do until I could get a bit better on my feet, plus she doesn’t know how to drive, doesn’t have a license or a car, so she has a hard time getting around with her son so I figured this would help us both. As soon as I first met her, she seemed really nice and cool. A little unlady like

- will hack up loogies in front of anyone/anywhere

- pees in the toilet and doesn’t flush nor wipes from the looks of it

- doesn’t brush her hair or brush her teeth from what I’ve seen

- she wore a tank top yesterday, a loose one that’s too big for her and was sitting on the couch with her boob literally hanging out. My kid was asleep in our room thank god and didn’t see anything.

I try not to judge, so I carry on with my daily functions and just remind myself this isn’t forever. But, she has a child. And I don’t like the way she treats him. I have a child who’s 14 months old, at that age it is, in my opinion, WAY too little to be spanking. I choose not to spank my children anyways, I don’t believe in it. But she will cuss at this baby, is constantly walking around angry and cussing. The littlest thing inconveniences her, she’ll holler at this baby and if he doesn’t come to her AT THAT moment, she freaks out. He wanted to get up and play this morning, and she freaked out, when he cries she calls him a tit bag, etc. I had a friend over last night & he has no kids mind you, but he really spoke to me how he doesn’t like the way she treats him and is uncomfortable coming over now because he wants to say something to her. She freaked out this am because he pooped, was telling him she hates him, etc and was complaining how she’s tired and wants him to just go to his dads for good and leave her alone and anytime the baby says daddy she freaks out and says ‘you’re not going to your dads and he’s an idiot you’re not being around him, etc’ I told her yesterday she needs to go to counseling and get help and that she needs to settle down, she mentioned getting pregnant from some dude on pregnant and I told her that she doesn’t need any more kids, not to do it because 1) she’s not stable and 2) she’s not mentally ready for another child and she got offended but 🤷🏻‍♀️ I plan to speak to her about her son, I even offered to watch him while she works once she gets a job because I want to make sure that baby is getting some loving and time with other kids without being screamed or yelled at for simply being born. My kids go to daycare, I will never leave my kids in her care, if she treats her own child that way, how would she treat mine. I’m unsure what to do at this point, any advice. I don’t want to move out and fuck her over and risk that baby getting hurt or something, I feel with me there I can kinda protect him, but at the same time, her disgusting behavior toward the child and even with herself, it’s really bothering me.