My 14 year old daughter gets so easily overwhelmed and angry and she shouts at me.

My daughter is 14 and is recovering from a traumatic experience that happened less than a year ago at her old school, she left that school with sever social disorders and anxiety.

(Her biological mother was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, my daughter has not yet been tested)

I was trying to talk to her about something I had read on bullying but she didn’t want to talk about it but I kept pushing so she had to explain to me that she keeps having reoccurring nightmares of her ex friends and her old school. She eventually broke down into tears and stormed out and started yelling at me, she slammed and locked her door so I went back to sitting in the living room.

After 2 minutes she opens her door screaming at the top of her lungs about how I don’t care about her and how I barely care enough to get off my computer and try to comfort her. She unlocks her door and lets me in and I try to hug her but she pushes me away and yells “don’t touch me I don’t like being touched!” I then try to turn her light on but she slams it off immediately and demands that I stand her doorway with the lights off while she is huddled in a corner of her room crying and screaming.

I again try to enter her room and hug her but she starts panicking telling me that I have to stand in the doorway and that I have to keep the lights off. At this point she is crying so hard she can barely speak and sounds as if she’s struggling to breathe.

Whenever I try to leave her to calm down she yells that I don’t understand and that I don’t care. “When this happens to me I need you to help me because I don’t know why I’m like this, I need you to not ignore me!”

After she finally calms down she feels so bad after and she just cries and then sleeps for days and feels so bad about yelling.

I don’t know what’s wrong!! She’s not autistic and at first we treated it as if it was just her being a spoiled brat but I think there’s something else to it...