Need help: moving shower for a funeral 😔

My best friend’s parent just passed away after a multi-year battle with a severe health issue. They’ve decided to hold the services about two weeks later for family to travel here for it. Unfortunately it’s likely to be scheduled either the day before my baby shower or the day *of* my baby shower. This shower is being thrown by our mutual friends.

My shower hosts, my bff and I are very close and so we have been there for her the last week and will be attending the service.

But I really need some help from you May moms who can be more objective. We’re looking into changing the shower in case the service is held on the actual shower day.

I’ve already reached out to the 6 main couples who are planning to attend the shower (incl our siblings and our very closest friends). Unfortunately almost NONE of them can attend any of our other dates (my brother is the only one). The next weeks after the shower are when we have our baby/birthing classes and a family baby shower, and then I will be close to delivering.

My friends who are hosting have suggested it wouldn’t be appropriate to hold the shower the day after the funeral. However, my best friend (whose parent died) is unlikely to attend any of the dates due to various reasons.

On one hand, I understand and don’t want the shower to be a sad affair as the hosts and I will be attending the service (not any of our guests though). On the other hand, I’ve had many tragedies and funerals in my life and I feel the best way to celebrate life is to enjoy celebrations like this. So I feel it wouldn’t be inappropriate to hold the shower the day after the funeral. Especially since this is a friend and not a family member for anyone who is hosting or my family or my husband’s family.

Does that make me terrible? Any advice? 😞