let me start off by saying my situation. my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. i am in college right now and we are in a long distance relationship. he’s back home, and I am 8 hours away at school. So far, it’s been a rocky road but we have been making it work. He’s come up to visit me a few times and I try to fly home once every two months. I love my boyfriend with literally my whole entire heart. We are so good for each other and when I am with him I am the happiest person ever. He makes me feel so loved. Having a long distance relationship has been extremely difficult. Obviously it’s not the same as seeing him in person and therefore it’s hard on both of us. my boyfriend is extremely insecure. his last girlfriend cheated on him many many times and therefore it scared him. 7 months ago, I got blackout drunk and apparently kissed someone (I found out the next day by a friend). I told my boyfriend and obviously he was upset. he’s gotten over it. So here’s the deal: he’s extremely insecure. he asks me all the time “what are you wearing.” I answer by it doesn’t matter and it shouldn’t matter. and he goes “it does if your boobs are out and your butt is popping.” I ask him time and time again to stop and he still doesn’t. is this normal??? like idk what to do because I tell him to stop and he does for a bit then continues on with his old ways. also, I haven’t gone out and partied in 2 months because of him. It’s because I don’t want to deal with how he acts. if I go out, he acts up and gets extremely insecure about what I’m wearing or guys I’ll be talking to. since I got black out drunk months ago he always has bad thoughts running through his mind and worries. I tell him that I understand why and tell him to trust me which he does , but only to a certain extent. he also always asks me “are you sitting next to any guys” and things along those lines when I’m in class. I just don’t know what to do because time and time again I have communicated to him that it doesn’t matter what I wear and it doesn’t matter if I’m sitting next to a random guy during a lecture with 400+ people. I tell him I need change and frankly nothing has. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to break up with him or lose him, but it’s getting super annoying having to deal with him saying crap about other guys and saying shit to me that he shouldn’t even worry about. obviously, he has his own issues he needs to work out. But I seriously need some advice on what to do. is it normal for my boyfriend to ask me what I’m wearing multiple times a week??!!