My doctor made me feel stupid

Hey girls, I’m not sure if I need to vent or if I need advice, but here’s what happened at my appointment today.

Little bit of background: i’m 21 and I’m not 100% sure what I should be doing as far as visits/ baby related stuff.

My first appointment my doctor told me that I needed to get blood work, an ultrasound, and possibly genetic testing. I personally thought this would happen at the next appointment. She never told me that I have to schedule appointment with 3 other doctors to get these done and she never gave me any numbers to call for these doctors. She gave me a “guide to pregnancy” book and it says nothing about these tests I was supposed to get done.

When I had my appointment today, she made me feel stupid for not having all these appointments done, when I thought I was getting them done that day.

I asked my mom if she had to go to other doctors and she said that she only ever went to 1 place for all of her appointments. She also said that with her first pregnancies, she was definitely not taken as seriously as when she was older.

I honestly felt so stupid that I cried and it’s honestly still making me cry. I don’t think my doctor is a bad person, but how do I know what I’m supposed to be doing when there is no direction?