Looking for encouragement from someone who has been in my place. We live together, we’re going on 3 years in the relationship. He bought a house 1yr ago. I work in real estate. My career has been bumpy. I have another job serving tables on this side to help make up the loss of income. For a few months now it seems that I’m the one getting very irritated at him. He says he feels like I make him out to be a terrible person. BUT- I’m always asking for him to cuddle with me in bed. I want him to put more effort into affection for me with words, Actions, something besides sexual. I’ve ask him this for at least 2/3 yrs we’ve been together and sometimes I wonder if he ever will “work on it” like he says. He gives little peck kisses . He knows I like to be kissed with passion at least once in awhile.. because of this I feel like it’s created tension between us over small little stuff. He gets upset, I get upset like a cycle. We have small disputes & we make up. But it won’t last more than a day it seems. Is this normal? Who is being too sensitive or not trying hard enough? Are we compatible? Should I take my dads subtle nudges that he isn’t good enough? We’re engaged!! How does this happen? These are all question I ask myself all the time. My heart hurts.

How do you deal with tension? What’s normal for you? I don’t want to be old grumpy couple who have “taken advice” such as “you have to stick together. That’s how you make it 50+ years in marriage..... that’s another reason why I’m trying to get over all the doubts in my mind