What are some of the most annoying pieces of “advice” you’ve received?

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Mine are mostly from my husbands family. 
His sister, especially. 
“Make sure not to feed him too much.” 
“His stomach looks big, you should talk to his pediatrician about that.” 
“Why does he have hiccups, that doesn’t seem normal. You should talk to his pediatrician about that.” 
“I know all about safe sleep, make sure you are putting him in his bassinet.” 
“Why is he naked? He should have clothes on.” 
“Are you sure it’s okay to give his gas drops? You should ask his pediatrician about that.” (Even though I told her I had already asked lol) 
“I don’t think it’s normal he has so much gas, is he sick?” 
“You shouldn’t give him water.” NOW WHY IN THE FUCK WOULD I GIVE MY 7 WEEK OLD WATER? WHY? 
“What is gripe water? Are you sure that’s okay to give to him? You should be careful.” 
“Make sure if you have a beer to not breastfeed.” 
Overbearing, 40,000 questions, too many opinions... I can’t stand it sometimes. I know she’s just concerned or whatever but holy shit... please lay off.

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I hate “if you pick him up every time he cries you’ll spoil him” WTF else  does a 6 week old do to communicate?!

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Basically anything that begins with... “when I was a kid we _____ and we survived.”

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"Sleep when the baby sleeps" firstly, I have a 2yo so I can't just go to sleep and leave him on his own. Secondly, when am I supposed to eat/shower/clean/me time etc?

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It’s ALWAYS my mother-in-law and it’s always something to the effect of “I did that with my kids and they were fine”. She’s said this about putting them on their stomach to sleep, having blankets/bumpers/etc in the crib when they slept, and lots of other things that have been studied over the past 30 years since she was raising kids... I just tell her that she can say they were fine all she wants but obviously some other mothers weren’t so lucky and I’d rather be safe than sorry. She also tells us all the time that when she watches our nephew, she does things that his mother tells her not to do because she doesn’t agree. Doesn’t instill much trust and when she visited I refused to leave our LO alone with her. People just think they are right and you have to do what you feel is best because you’ll never please everyone!

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Hmm she actually sounds anxious - liek she is worried about her nephew (granted annoyingly so.) maybe just reassure her that babe is fine and you check in with the doc. Does she have kids?? Sounds like she doesn’t.

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My daughter is always in a long sleeve onesie, pants, socks with a blanket over her lap and a fleece lined car seat cover since it’s winter here and every time my MIL sees her she’s always saying how “there’s no way she’s warm in that” (first of all we are not standing outside in the cold for long periods of time) so I ask her why she feels she’s not warm enough “because she’s not wearing a coat, I’d put a coat on her in the car seat”. I tell her you’re not supposed to do that anymore since the straps don’t get tight enough in baby...no joke she rolled her eyes so far back I felt her head was going to hit the floor! She acts like I made it up just to justify me “letting my baby freeze”.

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“Give him some water for the hiccups, I did it for my kids and they turned out okay” 🙄
“You have to anoint his nose so it doesn’t stay stubby”
“Don’t wring his clothes out if you hand wash them”
“You’re not breastfeeding? Just squeeze your breasts”
“Why does he have so many long clothes on?” Well it’s winter here what do you expect!!!?
“Don’t give him a pacifier or else he’ll need braces” 
“Don’t hold him too much he’ll get spoiled”

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My mom visited when mine was three weeks old and seemed to think watching adult tv shows was inappropriate, because my newborn for sure has the cognitive ability to grasp what’s happening around him, let alone on tv. 🙄 She was super insistent on watching Barney instead and didn’t seem to get the hint that no, we were not going to watch Barney if he was asleep in the same room as us.

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The “is it normal to have that much gas” gets me too 😬 “If you nurse him before 3 hours he won’t gain weight or sleep” “he probably just needs to sleep on his belly” “if you don’t put him down he’ll never sleep on his own” “if you let him cry he won’t be gassy anymore” and my mom puts his chest clip on his abdomen and leaves his straps too loose, I always have to fix it when she walks away 🙃 my parents don’t ask questions because they know it all apparently 😒

What are some of the most annoying pieces of “advice” you’ve received?

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