for a little background information, i’m 20 years old and my boyfriend is 21. we met when i was 16, dated casually on and off in high school but were more like best friends, got together a couple weeks after i graduated in june 2017 and have been together ever since. now i LOVE this man and i KNOW he loves me. we have an overall pretty amazing relationship and are very open when it comes to communication, but there’s one thing i have a really hard time talking to him about... our sex life. don’t get me wrong, the sex is FANTASTIC. like feeling like a couple of porn stars every time fantastic. the only problem is, it hardly ever happens. i’ve talked to him several times about how i wish we did more or how i wish i felt wanted by him like that more or how sometimes i start to feel like more of a platonic best friend rather than his future wifey etc. and he has always been super understanding and willing to listen but he always just says that 1) he’s just not that sexual of a person and feels like other things in a relationship are more important (which, i agree with) 2) that to him it’s a really special thing and doing it all the time makes it seem less special and fun etc. i see where he is coming from with both of these things and i get i just must have a much higher sex drive than him but it gets to the point where i’ll just start feeling so hideous and unattractive bc he won’t act sexually inclined towards me at all for such long stretches of time. and like i said other than this issue we have an amazing relationship so it’s not like he’s not doing other things to make me feel loved or know i care i just feel almost “friend zoned” by him sometimes? now, i don’t expect to have incredibly romantic or crazy kinky hour long sex every day. i would be totally fine with just a lil 2 min quicky every now and then. or besides having actual sex, i wish he’d at least let me give him more blowjobs?? i know he really enjoys them and i would be fine with giving him one every flippin day of the week if he wanted but instead he’s turned me down on one a few times before and i know maybe this is super sexist but it hurts worse since he’s the guy? i always heard growing up about how all guys care about is sex and head etc and now even if i try my hardest and beg my mans he doesn’t want it? idk just looking for any advice anyone has on how to deal with or better work around this? or is in a similar situation? i don’t want to pressure or ever make him feel like he has to have sex with me more (bc he doesn’t) or like he is inadequate or anything like that, i love him so much and i want to make sure he’s happy.. it’s just really discouraging feeling unwanted by someone you want so desperately 24/7